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Her: Love's not worth the hassle & heartaches.
Him: It is. With the right person, it is. With the wrong person, it is a disaster.
Her: Silence...

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But... how the hell are you supposed to know who's right and who's wrong?

:-/

the big.tv contest

Not sure how many people actually slip in here but had to plug this in!

~ After all I owe something to my personal kaaza! besides he's promised me an iphone if I do this - he just forgot to mention it, right motu? ;p

So without further ado, check out these 2 cool contests by Amit & his team:

R U Rajni Enough?
Maa... Mujhe Paise Do!

So whatcha waitin' for?

- Out! Out! Go, shoot! There's booty to loot!

Song for the day

the poetry, the melody, the voice - all of it makes me melt...
Almost like some of Leonard Cohen's poems...

Will attempt a loose translation later.

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what i'm learning i think
is to be one with my uncomfortableness
to let it engulf me
to welcome it inside me
to let the spear of uncomfortableness and aloneness/sadness
pierce my skin
enter my insides
and leave me no choice
but to become one with it in a lover's entangled embrace

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lost

this world is small

you begin someplace
end at another
& realize
you end where you began

this world is small

you look, look
and look
& realize
you are still the onlooker

Let's Talk About Brothers, Younger Brothers

Few reasons why you can't live with your younger sibling... or without them :-/

1. Makes fun of my e-mail addy: gaheri_bindu_andar@ & langdi_taang_ bahar@

2. Calls me:
a) moti (fatso)
b) bhainsi (buffalo)
- when I'm neither moti nor bhainsi, thank you very much!

3. Will hold my hand while crossing the road even though he is younger than me by more than four years and I've probably crossed more roads than him.

4. Will say, "Girna mat, giraana mat" (don't fall & don't let the thing you are holding fall either!) every single time I carry something like a tray full of food etc. - Hmph! As if I am born clumsy!

(ok, so things do seem to have a propensity to fall off my hands for some reason!)

5. Will call me "didi" only when he wants something from me.

6. Will make me laugh when I'm angry with him and ready to blast him off (do you have any idea how annoying that is?).

7. Will ask me to give him a missed call if I'm walking to a relative's place at 8:00 in the night... - Oh, did I mention that the place is just 5 minutes away?

8. Refuses to teach me gaalis (cuss words) and help me build my meager repertoire. :X

9. People who meet us for the first time think he's the elder one.

Sigh!

Got your own younger/elder brother/sister stories?

Thought Blots

Random thoughts that I want to blog about:

- Parenting Parents: Role Reversal. Children becoming protective of their parents?
- True Loves: Off-beat careers. Case in point "What Not To Wear" on TLC.
- Lookin' Good : Can the awareness that you look good change your life?
- Post-it for Blogs? Have to search for this one so that for future such lists I don't have to write a separate post.

Last but not the least not a bloggable thought but just a thought: Love can be a bitch. A friend of mine had his heart broken recently and feels that his world has come to an end... (sigh)

What was that?

Speaking of Sex & the City...

"The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous." - Carrie

“Charlotte [After the wedding]: I finally get to sleep with Trey.
Carrie: Excuse me?
Miranda: You haven't slept with him yet?
Samantha: Honey, before you buy the car you take it for a test drive!”

“Miranda: Maybe it's time that I stop being so angry.
Carrie: Yeah, but what would you do with all your free time?”

“Charlotte: Miranda has a son!
Samantha: Just what the world needs: another man.”

“Carrie: I just love Sleeping Beauty! The music, the sets, the costumes. It's so romantic!
Stanford: You only like it because she sleeps for a hundred years and doesn't age.”

“I don't believe in the Republican party or the Democratic party. I just believe in parties." - Samantha

"No man is worth your tears and the one who is will never make you cry." - not sure which of the 4 said this

Love in last seasons

I just don't get it.

I was reading the Episode Guide of Sex and the City's last season and - oh, yeah! that might be certifiably crazy (reading the episode guide online I mean)! I can't dispute that (especially when I have tons of other stuff to get done as well!) It's just that I like reading the episode guides of shows I can't watch. To be honest, in a way I prefer *reading* the episode guides to watching them - I don't have to go through the suspense of waiting to know what happens next in the subsequent episode.

Anyway, to get back to Sex and the City, Mr. Big "suddenly" goes after Carrie in the series finale. Yes, after turning away from her for the last 8 seasons (or was it 6?), he's hit by a sudden bolt of lightning and realizes that Carrie is the girl for him! So what does he do? Pack his bags and rush to Paris to search for his lady-love (who had moved there just the episode before) in the last show of the last season.

Does he go after her while she was still in New York? Of course not! That wouldn't make for a great finish would it? It has to be the last episode of the last season filmed in Paris to garner enough eyeballs!

I feel like saying, "Give me a break!" I mean did he suddenly wake up one fine New York morning and decide that this is it, "It's get Carrie" day?!

(For the uninitiated, Carrie and Mr. Big have had an on-again, off-again relationship with it definitely being off in Season 4, 5 or 6 (don't remember which!))

Where am I going with this?

Be it 'Sex and the City' or 'Friends', why is it that the lead characters of both these hugely popular pop culture shows are hit by a bolt from Cupid only in the last episode of the last show?

Is it only an eyeball grabbing exercise or does it have some basis in truth? Do you really wake up one day and all of a sudden decide that it's the you're-in-love day?

I don't get it.

I definitely do not have a vast experience walking the minefield of love and relationships but logic, past relationship, and something inside me rebels against the decide-you're-in-love theory.

All of a sudden, how do you know that this is it? How can love dawn upon you in a sudden moment of enlightenment?

In fact the more I think of it the more I feel that being in love or being in a relationship is akin to a state of constant simmer. A meeting, a conversation, even your first kiss is just a starting point. You talk, you converse, you laugh, you joke and then suddenly one day you fight. Hurting, you take a step back. You think, you talk again, and take a few more tentative steps forward. You're scared but you let the other person privy to your darkest moments and fears, to dreams you feel are too lofty but which still dog your mind.

I guess what I'm wondering is - Do you go through all of this because you have already decided or you "know" that you are in love? Or does love dawn upon you while you're in the midst of a conversation or a fight? Or does love leave you startled one day with the force of enlightenment?

The reason Sex and the City rankled is because it ties up everything neatly - too neatly. Don't get me wrong. I love tied-with-big-bow finishes and I guess at heart I am a romantic. But life just is not this neat.

It does not have a 'last' season where you suddenly realize that you're in love or have been in love all along.

It's a little bit more painful and a little more confusing... It kind of leaves you wishing that sometimes, just sometimes, you were on the last episode of the last season of a pop show!

But then again.... maybe that wouldn't be as much fun!

Link-a-Link-a-Link...

I love stumbling into things which make me soar.

One of these is KarmaTube (which I found off CharityFocus) - "The world is full of wonderful and inspiring stories, some unfolding in distant places and others right next door. KarmaTube is dedicated to bringing more of these stories to light, using the power of video and the internet to demonstrate and multiply acts of compassion, generosity and selflessness."

Here's some of my favourite videos:

1. http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=81 - What does a teacher "make"? A difference!
2. http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=108 - Makes me think that maybe each one of us does have something that makes a difference in this world
3. http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=80 - Impromptu Joy! I love how contagious joy/laughter is!

Abstractions

Top 5 (+1) Strange/Interesting Thoughts of the Week-That-Was

1. Something I've been thinking, "Do guys read MBs (Mills & Boons)?" And if yes, what do they think of it? (the four I asked, didn't. And two hadn't even heard of 'em!)

2. A co-worker to me, "You won't find a guy here in India. The kind of person you are - you need to be with a guy who's lived in West" - on marriage, relationships, love. In all fairness, the person meant well.

3. People who you think you know well *will* continue to surprise you. Same co-worker to me, "Granted you have your moments of childishness but you need someone who's an intellectual match and with whom you can talk. Else you'll get bored pretty soon".

4. After a disastrous meal or two at office cafetaria - Food at office is going to suck. Why, oh why, isn't this taught as a fact of life in schools?

5. Can a 60+ man really fall in love with a woman 30 years his junior? Rather, is it really possible for it to work out the other way round? (Disclaimer: I DID enjoy Cheeni Kam hugely!)

6. Realization - "Love at first sight" just does not seem possible to me.